The most important thing you can do for her is to be there for her, allow her to talk when she wants to and be sensitive to how she is feeling.

Coping after a failed transfer is like grieving for a loss. A loss of hope, a loss of a precious embryo and the loss of future life that you had planned out in your mind.

When I was going through treatment I found all the waiting was unbearable.

One of the things I really struggled with when trying to conceive was feeling like a failure – I’ve always tried so hard to do my best at things and achieve what I set out to do, but however hard I tried, I couldn’t get pregnant.

Those of us that are/have struggled to conceive will know that one of the hardest things to cope with when trying to conceive is other people sharing their happy news that they are expecting.

I found it hard at first going to the assisted conception unit. You don’t hear much about IVF and in a way it felt a bit like admitting failure (which it absolutely isn’t).

Fertility struggles can put enormous pressure on a relationship and it is a huge thing to go through as a couple. It is really important to support each other and talk through decisions and how you are feeling.